In the weeks and months before the big day, it is easy for couples to get caught up in the whirlwind of wedding planning, with no time to take inventory of any feelings they may have leading up to the nuptials.
As the wedding day nears, the bride and groom should not be surprised if some nerves set in. A survey from the anxiety self-help resource The Fear Source indicates that 71 percent of brides-to-be suffered from some type of nerves during the lead-up to their wedding. Ninety-two percent experienced nerves the day of the wedding or the night before, while 66 percent reported that it affected their daily lives prior to their wedding or hampered their performance and enjoyment on their wedding day.
According to Psych Central, a modern online voice for mental health information, emotional support and advocacy, pre-wedding jitters are common and can be the subconscious telling a person that something needs to be remedied. Wedding nerves do not mean a wedding is doomed; it just means certain issues may need to be worked through. The following are some ways to tame wedding day nerves.
• Keep an open dialogue. Speak with your future spouse about the things that may be causing your anxiety. Maybe you have doubts on financial choices or where you will be living after the wedding. Communicating openly and honestly is one of the foundations of a strong relationship.
• Slow down and breathe. Wedding planning involves making many decisions, and sometimes couples move at breakneck speed. Make slowing down a priority. Make time for a quiet dinner with just the two of you. Steal some peaceful moments, and take deep breaths to calm and revitalize yourself. If need be, consider signing up for a yoga or tai chi class to force you to slow down.
• Address performance anxiety. It's easy to build up the big day in your mind and hope that everything goes according to plan. But it's impossible to plan for each and every outcome on your wedding day. Focus on everything that can go right, rather than worrying about what might go wrong. And realize that your guests are your friends and family members who will be forgiving of any hiccups. You're bound to recover gracefully from any mishaps.
• Work on your confidence. Wedding fears may stem from inadequate self-confidence. Give yourself a pep talk and surround yourself with positive people. Keep the worrywarts at arm's length for the time being.
• Recruit more help. A wedding is a huge undertaking, so it's no surprise that couples sometimes feel overwhelmed. Ask reliable relatives or friends to double-check all of the last-minute details. This way you don't feel it is all on your shoulders.